Yes to everything.

If you’re single and dating with a view to meeting ‘The One,’ then saying ‘yes to everything’ may seem like a great idea.

It’s not. 

The reason I say this is because I took exactly the same approach. When I was single, I decided to say yes to everything that came my way.  The rationale at the time seemed sound.  I figured saying yes would stack the dating odds in my favour.

The only problem with this approach is that not all ‘social scenarios’ are equal.  So for a time I said yes to everything.  This included family weddings and turning up to more family functions then I’d have done normally.   I'm Indian Asian and there's always somebody getting married or some type of extended family function or event.  Ordinarily I'd have stayed away but I went along to a few more than usual.

In addition I said yes to the everyday drinks, lunch, brunch and dinner invites.  I offered my plus one services to anyone who needed them.  I attended parties and events that I didn’t particularly want to be at.  My singles friends and I also arranged weekly visits to venues which we believed had a high propensity of men.

I can honestly say I never met and was never approached by anyone while doing any of the above activities.  For the most part I had a great time and caught up with friends and family which in itself was OK. 

Looking back and to be totally honest, I do feel most of my yeses were unnecessary.  In hindsight it’d have been better to say ‘yes’ to events specially aimed at singletons.  I’d have improved my chances of meeting someone who was single and whose objective was similar to mine.

Having personally said ‘yes to everything.’  My advice would be to choose your yeses carefully.  If your decision to say yes  is based on augmenting your dating chances.  Then it’s better to say yes to singles events and parties. 

Look up singles events in your area or allocate some time to try out online dating.  I know neither are particularly pleasant, but they’re your best chance of meeting other singletons.

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