As a Rules dating and relationship coach I find other peoples relationships fascinating, especially around how they first met.
Without a doubt the best stories are always when he chased and pursued her. These are always great to hear because its means (whether she knows it or not) she did The Rules. The flip side is hearing about relationships that are not so Rules-y. These are a little harder to listen to because so often the girl is in pain. Pain and hurt which I hasten to add is completely avoidable.
Yesterday I was reading an article in The Observer titled 'The ex-files.' It was easy to work out where the relationship went wrong.
The beginning was all wrong. She initiated the relationship. She also acted insecure and told him how much she loved him. It should be the other way round. She made it too easy for him and continued to do so by visiting him every weekend.
Given all the Rules she broke, his backing away is understandable. They’re still good friends which is OK as long as she’s not secretly wishing them back together. If she is then she’s wasting her time. He sounds like a great guy but in terms of love and romance he’s a ‘Next.' Have a read here.
Hmmm this sounds interesting! I've never expected that when you tell your man how much you loved him it will push him away. Anyways, maybe it depends upon the guy because I have a friend who's madly inlove with his boyfriend and they've been together for 2 years and 2 months I guess. My friend is so showy to her affection to his bf and I guess that makes them last longer. By the India, it's just a thought I hope you wouldn't mind it.
ReplyDeleteHi african woman,
DeleteThank you for your note and no I don't mind at all. Fingers crossed it all works out for your friend. India x