Dear reader’s looks like yesterday’s blog post and Mr Eligible’s email crossed in cyberspace. I posted on the blog only to find an email from the very adorable Mr Eligible. He’s been busy getting himself a new job which he starts in three weeks time.
Anyway below is Mr E’s follow up to the hot girl v dream girl debate. His response shows that any man who ‘has to have you’ will find a way. That said it’s not all one sided. We can do our part by looking our very best and being easy to be with.
How do men know the difference between a hot girl and your dream girl? And how do men tell the difference between the two?
Mr Eligible’s response:
I can’t speak for all men on this because we all have differing standards, tastes and outlooks on women and relationships.
For me the hot girl is an attractive desirable girl, someone I’d look at and talk to. She would be very desirable. That said I wouldn’t feel like she’s someone I must have and whose affections I'd have to fight for.
My dream girl would be the one I would fight for. I’d also feel jealous if she were with someone else. Now this can sound a bit creepy and scary but none of this is meant to be physically violent. It’s just the strength of feeling with a dream girl is much greater than with a hot girl. A lot of my best friends are hot girls but I don’t get the strong feeling of ‘must have her as my girlfriend’ that I would if I really desired them.
The test is if a mate was interested and she was hot. Would I warn him off her or let him have her? If she was hot and we both wanted her, I’d probably let my mate speak to her first and see how he got on. If he got her number or went on a date I’d probably let her go
This would not happen with the dream girl. The boys would know that I like her a lot. And that trying to get her ahead of me would annoy me and strain our friendship.
That’s how I know and that’s how I tell the difference between the two.
Now this is me and to be honest it’s not going to be the same for other guys. I don’t feel like I’ve ever had a problem meeting or attracting women. It'd take an amazing girl for me to feel like this, looking hot would never be enough.
There are 3.5 billion women on the planet, if 0.0000001% (1 millionth of a 1%) looked like my dream girl, that'd be 350 potential girls.
The looks would reel me in but the conversation, rapport and personality is what would make me want more and feel like I have to make her mine. For me she would have to be easy to be with and talk to. If this didn’t happen she would just be a smoking hot girl, who looks like my dream girl but really isn’t.
Most men can tell the difference between a hot girl and their dream girl. For us men it’s on an instinctive level. We can’t describe it because it’s more feeling than logic.
How would you behave and act with someone who ‘you just had to have?’
I would be charming, witty, dashing, funny, handsome etc. Ultimately I'd be direct, not rude. I would be pleasant, relaxed and easy going. I’d make it clear quite quickly and quite obviously that I thought she was amazing and that she has to see me and date me.
I would also be persistent, which would seem annoying, but that’s the game baby! A dude likes a girl and has to ask her out three or four times before she says yes. It’s been that way since we started finding other people attractive at school and we all know it!
The dream girl would know that I liked her a lot because I would tell her and show her. She’d always know because everything I did and said would point to the fact that I really liked her. Cards, flowers, gifts, consideration, gratitude, and patience it would all come out.
It has to.
She’s my dream girl and as I said in the previous question she would be amazing.
I don’t ask for much…