I hear this all the time.
Thinking (s)he’ll just fall out the sky and into your laps while you’re sitting at home on a Saturday night. Or that you’ll bump into each other at work, while you’re out with the girls or buying your weekly groceries i.e all naturally and seamlessly while you're going about your everyday life
It’s a nice thought and one I used to think myself. Unfortunately it’s nothing more than whimsical thinking. It rarely happens that way. It didn’t happen in that way for me and it hasn’t happened for a lot of people either.
Maybe we think we’re too special or too darn hot to have to ‘work’ at meeting someone. The reality is if you want something only you can make it happen.
If you don't want to 'work' at meeting someone then be prepared to stay single. Tough but true.
With the utmost respect. Quit feeling sorry for yourself. Get yourself out there. Date until you can date no more. And I guarantee he/she will definitely come along.
Excellent post, India Kang!! Thanks for the tough love. I think doing the Rules is good for us girls too because when we find Mr. Right we appreciate him SO much more. We know how hard he is to find.
ReplyDeleteThank you Mel.
ReplyDeleteIndia is it Normal to have dating anxiety? I feel so nervous thinking about being on a date and a lot of books say to not show you're nervous... Which makes
ReplyDeleteMe more nervous!
Hi Anon, yes it's normal. I used to reframe my dates and think of them as a 'meeting' i.e I'm just meeting this guy for a couple of hours, that's all and then I'm heading off. It took some off the pressure off. The more you date the less anxious you'll be. Get yourself out there and remember to smile lots. Good luck x
ReplyDeleteThats very helpful to think of it that way thank you!! x
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