Online dating is fraught with people looking for pen pals or simply wasting your time. Since there is no vetting system often you find that men write to you without ever asking for a date. According to 'The Rules' these specimens are called ‘time wasters’ or men looking for pen pals. Both of which are time consuming and somewhat annoying.
Last year I received a whooping thirteen emails from a guy on mysinglefriend spread over a period of nearly nine weeks . I knew from his first email that he was wasting my time. Ordinarily I would have deleted or ‘nexted’ him. In this instance I wanted to test 'The Rules' and responded to his emails well beyond the golden seven email rule for Online Dating. Even though I gave him enough opportunities to organise himself in the end he simply ‘poofed’
The email conversation went as follows:
Nick: Mamma mia...!
Me: A musical.
Nick: Well I’m trying, are you trying enough.
Me: Now now be nice.
Nick: Hi India, you're irony is so dry I'm feeling a little parched. Shall we get a coffee?
Me : Sure. Let me know details.
He then send the below email on the same day, asking for a same day date. Fortunately I had logged off by then and didn’t see his note until much later in the week.
Nick: Hi there, are you free this afternoon? I might be playing some tennis in Regent's park so if you text we can work out suitable time and place. Is Primrose Hill any good for you?
Me: Sorry I’ve only just seen your note. Next week would be better.
Nick: Oh dear, shall we try again later today or tomorrow? Enjoy the snow.
Me: I can do Thursday 16th Dec after 6pm, otherwise it'll have to be in the NY.
Nick: Sorry didn't see this message. This eve would be better than tomorrow as I should go to a meeting at 715ish in St Johns Wood. Though i guess I could go late. Are you free this eve?
Me: The NY would be better, anytime after the 4th Jan suits.
Nick: I'll let you know as I am hoping to take a month out in Brazil from Jan 4 to try to improve my kitesurfing! Have a great Xmas anyway if I don't see you before.
Nick hasn’t been in touch since and I doubt I’ll hear from him again. Once again ‘The Rules’ helped me weed out time wasters all from the comfort of my home.
P.s Names have been changed and grammar has been corrected to allow for an easier read.
